Last week, we shared the first biblical truth on which we have built our marriage. This truth is a cornerstone of our marriage and it’s the basis of all of the significant decisions we make.
First Biblical Truth – Marriage is for God’s Glory.
The practical outworking of this truth is that we make decisions based on what God wants and not on what we want. Sometimes, this means we do things that are challenging, and even painful. The good news is that God gives us what we need to follow this truth and apply it in our marriage.
Okay, what answer did you give for the third question in our questionnaire?
3. Where is the love going to come from to refresh and/or save your marriage?
A. By finding it within yourself.
B. From my spouse learning to love me.
C. From God
D. All of the above.
The answer is C. – from God.
Knowing this is a great relief and an encouragement because it means there is a source of love that is far greater than the love you and your spouse have. And this brings us to:
Topic 1 – God’s Love is the ultimate source of love for your marriage.
This is the second biblical truth on which you can stand, to triumph in your marriage.
This is something that must be carefully guarded because if you stray from this truth your marriage will start to become dull and slip on to the path of mediocrity. God wants your marriage to be rich and deep, even in the hard times. How does this work?
It works because the first love in your marriage should be for Jesus Christ and not for your spouse. This is a supernatural love that comes from God and goes way beyond human love.
‘God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.’ Romans 5:5
The love that the Holy Spirit pours into our hearts never fails!
The truth is, your spouse is never going to fully satisfy you or complete you. You were not created for your spouse, you were created by and for God, and it is only in your relationship with Him that you will find total fulfillment and contentment!
‘For us there is but one God, the Father, from whom all things came and for whom we live; and there is but one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom all things came and through whom we live. 1 Corinthians 8:6
When God’s love is present and active in your heart, it gives you the motivation to do the things that will please God, whatever the cost. When you really love someone, your passion and joy is to please them!
I’ve experienced the practical outworking of this love. In the worst period of our marriage, in the two years after Alex committed suicide, Jeannie was in a very dark place. She’d lost her faith (she couldn’t reconcile how a loving God could have allowed such evil to come on our family), and she hated herself and she hated me.
She told me, again and again, it was my fault that Alex committed suicide and that she hated me and wished we had never met! There are no words to describe the suffering and pain I was feeling at that time!
But here is the amazing thing, I had the motivation and passion in my heart to keep on loving Jeannie. This had to be God’s love because I had come to the end of my own love (it’s hard to love someone when they are verbally torturing you).
Thankfully, there was another greater love, that was working in our marriage and that was the love I had in my heart for Jesus Christ. Despite all the pain and the suffering, I loved Christ with all my heart and had a passion and desire to do what pleased Him in my marriage, whatever it cost me.
Watch the video – The Cornerstone of a Happy Marriage:
Topic 2 – How strong is your love for God?
Let me ask you, how strong is God’s love in your heart? Do you love Jesus Christ enough to lay your life down for Him? If not, I have some wonderful news for you. I know where you can go to be filled from a never-ending flow of supernatural love!
Spend some time to consider how strong your love is for Jesus Christ. Has there ever been a time when you loved him more than you do today? Why has your love waned for him? Write down where you want your love to be for God and ask him to fill your heart with his love, through the Holy Spirit.
Maybe you feel there is no longer any love in your marriage or that it’s not where you want it to be. Next week we will share the third biblical truth for your marriage. Our marriage is based on unconditional love from the ‘Throne of Grace.’
With much love,